The passing of my father on January 2nd, 2025 was not something that easy for all his children. Even though he has left our family and stayed with his secondi wife and 2 children for 3 decades.
He was someone that could not sit still at home, like to be outdoor most of the time. A stubborn and bad tempered man. His 5 grandchildren were not close to him as we hardly meet except during Chinese New Year and occasionally some other time. .
Whatever has happened between him and mom has long gone and should be forgotten and forgiven now. He did his best to ensure we have food on our table before he left us though I have long left house after my marriage before he left my mom and siblings.
My brother being the stubborn child has never forgiven him till his last breath and did not even attend his wake/funeral. Father has been hospitalized after a fall for 37 days before his heartbeat eventually stopped.
Father is the eldest in his family with a younger brother who fled to Thailand ages ago.
During his hospitalization , it was hectic especially for his middle child , the closest to him that never miss a day to visit him every evening even how tired she was. I guess all of us have some sort of stubbornness in us.
Father's admission to Hospital Serdang
26/11/2024 due to a fall (he has this sepsis condition and a diabetic patient.
29/11 Visited after visiting hour. He did talk nonsense, seeing 'things'.
30/11 Called my sister daughter to take him out and found out his hands full of bruises.
2/2 Requested Hokien noodle (Mee & Meehoon) for lunch. So we packed his favorite.
3/12 12noon visit hour, we found him unconscious, intubation at Progressive Care Unit. He requested Singapore Fried Meehoon which he didnt get to eat.
4/12 no improvement
5/12 transferred to Intensive Care Unit under sedate. Ultrasound abdomen which was scheduled when he was in normal ward.
8/12 No more under sedate. Opened eyes but pupil blank
9/12 5th day in ICU. Did not open his eyes. 2nd time kidney dialysis, hand warm. Evening open eyes for longer time, able to response, pupil recover.
10/12 6th day in icu could nod and shake head
11/12 7th day in icu - afternoon he was not responsive, can opened his eyes slightly and move his left hand. Another kidney dialysis. Low blood pressure. Medicine was administered to raise his blood pressure. Doctor said patient at times like that - not alert, his condition not critical but stable. Overall his response well with medications.
12/12 8th day ICU/16th day in hospital. He was more alert today, can response to what we said. Spoke to Doctor again, he said his condition was not stable. Blood pressure was very high around 180/59 due of dialysis yesterday they have to raise his blood pressure. Monitoring him closely until they could remove oxygen and let him breathe by himself.. At this juncture, he was still not strong enough to do so. Today he could move both hands, even grab sister's hand and nod his head. It will take sometimes for him to get out of ICU.
13/12 Aimed to remove rube but his morning urea high, need to another round of dialysis.
14/12 Removed intubation at 12 noon. Put on O2
15/12 Recovering
16/12 Ready to transfer ward but somehow didnt happen due to his readings.
17/12 On hunger strike. Breathing not good. Nurse did not manage to feed him milk.
18/12 Ok to have milk
19/12 Taken Phlegm medicine
20/12 Evening transferred to Ward 7B Bed 27
21/12 Improving
22/12 Cheerful, lots phlegm
23/12 Afternoon he was ok but by evening he was not happy
24/12 Evening closed his eyes all time. Refused to eat
25/12 Christmas Day
26/12 Still not happy
27/12 Suppose to discharge
30/12 Delayed till today but not able to discharge. Doctor found wound due to bedsore, need treatment
31/12 Ongoing treatment
1/1 My husband had cut his hair and shaved for him. He was eating well but vomited around 3 - 3.30 pm and unconscious. Doctor called to inform condition not good. Again on intubation.
2/1 Passed away about 2.30am
Wake was arranged by his second wife and children for 3-4/1 and funeral on 5/1 at Xio En, Cheras. On 6/1 collected his bone and ashes and was took home by his second wife.. On 12/1 ashes was scattered at Port Dickson.
Being someone that could not sit still at home, 37 days hospitalization was really a torture for him.
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
To All Family, Relatives and Friends
On behalf of my family, I want to express our heartfelt gratitude as we are deeply touched by your presence and generous contribution on the passing of my late father. Your kindness and thoughtfulness have brought us comfort and strength during this challenging time.
Thank you.
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